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‘Being a woman’ is my response to a challenge set up by Steve Pavlina as a result of his excellent article ‘How to be a man.’ As his insights and thoughts have been an inspiration to me for years I could not resist replying. I’m honoured to be mentioned among the other excellent submissions.

As I start to write I’m immediately aware of my privilege, and the hard facts that very many woman are in situations of incredible hardship and poverty. I am fortunate to have been brought up with love, security, education and choice . It is my heartfelt hope that sometime in the future this is possible for everyone.. women and men!



Being a woman is… being an individual, a wife, a lover, a mother, a daughter, a sister and a friend.

The Individual. A woman today has choices. She can follow her dreams and her destiny. She has opportunity and education and there is no reason why she cannot achieve anything she wants. She may decide not to but that is her choice. It’s acceptable to have a vibrant career and independent lifestyle. It’s equally acceptable to be a homemaker bringing up a family. If she is totally amazing she may even manage both!
A woman has opinions, and is free to voice and act upon these….and does so…. often.
A woman will share in the community using her various skills and talents. Excellent at bonding with other females she successfully runs businesses, sits on committees, helps in the local schools and arranges flowers for the local hospital.
Looking and feeling good is important to a woman. She does her best to exercise and keep her body fit and tries to eat healthily. This isn’t always easy but a new dress or hairdo is a great incentive! A woman loves to be complemented and willingly gives and receives help and advice.

The Wife and Lover. Love is crucial to a woman. It is what makes her world go round. A woman will give love easily and willingly. She receives love in so many ways. A woman is at her most radiant when in love.
She will give all of herself. She is lover, partner and loyal friend.
A rock in stormy weather, she has the ability to quietly inspire, support and motivate her partner. Although supportive she strives, at all times to maintain her dignity, honour and strength. She wholeheartedly delights in her lovers success and achievements.

A woman is capable of fun. Laughter is the best aphrodisiac. In a relationship she can bring inventiveness, challenge and fresh ideas.

A woman balances all facets of her womanhood with careful attention within the partnership. She switches and blends these roles with delicacy and skill. Doing this successfully is perhaps is the most challenging part of being a woman.

A Mother. One of the greatest joys for a woman is being a mother. Nothing can prepare her for this. Her whole existence as nurturer and carer is brought to the surface to spill over willingly and selflessly. Each day she observes and lives all the ups and downs with her growing offspring. Although unique and individual they are so very much a part of her that she experiences the journey of their lives with real empathy and feeling. She picks them up when they fall, encourages them and listens to their needs and worries. She helps them to find their own solutions to the problems they encounter, with tenderness and humour.
A woman is always a mother, she wants the best for her children even as they become adults and have children of their own.

A Daughter. A daughter has her parents to look up to for strength and guidance. She learns well the examples they show her. The bond with her mother is very special. She watches, imitates and learns from her and then chooses her own path, armed with that knowledge. As she grows older (if she is lucky) a mother can be her best friend. After all she has known her all of her life. A daughter and mother can share life together. This makes the load so much lighter to bear at times.
The father is a massive role model for his daughter.
She has a different but equally special place in his heart. The daughter should be able to test her femininity in the safety of the home. She looks to him for the characteristics that she would wish, in a future partner of her own.
As she gets older the role reverses and the daughter begins to take on more responsibility for her parents having the opportunity to return the love and care she was given as a child.

A Sister and a Friend. As a woman, all other women are her sisters. She is welcomed by them to form close friendship groups. These networks, provide a pool of valuable shared knowledge, help, information and advice. A woman is a team player. In our society today these friendship groups are even more relevant, as woman more than ever before are often separated from immediate family by circumstance and distance.

If she is lucky a woman may have a ‘real’ sister (or sisters) of her own. Despite normal sibling rivalry and sometimes differing views and personalities they will be dear and loving lifelong companions.
A sister for a brother has a special role. Sometimes she is playmate, friend, counsellor or perhaps even a substitute for her mother.

Being a woman is the whole and the sum of all the parts. Singular and plural. The big picture and each individual brush stroke. The mirror with all the reflections on its surface. Every note which makes up a symphony. A single drop of water in an ocean. The essence of life.